Asia Sharif-Clark explains this very well. Here’s what she has to say:
nothing unnatural about fear. Birds have it. Seals have it. We have it.
of the most natural feelings in the world. The key is to be aware of what you
fear and why you fear it. Then use your fear to move you forward. It's a sure
way to start facing your fear and overcome what holds you back.
Admit the Naturalness of Fear
of those who tell you fear is for wimps. Fear is a childish feeling you need to
get over. Don't go for it. Ever. What fear gives you is a personal alarm
system. It tells you when you're uncomfortable. It alerts you of both real and
perceived danger and pulls at your shirt, when you're out of your comfort zone.
the time to admit the naturalness of fear. A sense of fear is necessary to survive.
When you tell yourself "It's natural to feel what I'm feeling" you
validate not criticize, who you are. You validate the essence of being human.
And a big part of being human is feeling. With this validation, you're open to
move forward with your fear... not backing away from it.
wise once said, "Courage is not the absence of fear." Courage is
really a fancy word for moving with fear. Acknowledging its existence and
moving forward... anyway.
Affirm, You Won't Let it Stop You
doesn't just go away overnight, but it can be diminished. Step by step, little
by little, one move at a time, one day at a time. Make a commitment to
yourself, "I won't let ____ stop me." No matter what 'it' is. It may
slow you down, but don't let it stop you. Any step you take is progress. Every
step you make is progress. Just keep on stepping.
facing a new fear, think of an old fear you learned to overcome. Maybe it was a
fear of swimming, climbing, or speaking. What inspired you to keep going? Who
encouraged you to keep moving? What is your mantra? I love to use songs,
powerful words to keep me moving. Step by step, one move at a time, one day at
Get Help to Overcome What Holds You Back
never alone. You are not the first soul to go through what you're going
through. Don't be ashamed to reach out for support or guidance when you need
it. Nothing great is ever accomplished alone. When you reach out an amazing
thing surfaces, you run into someone just like you. Someone who's going through
or been through what you're now facing.
remember feeling the exact same way," can be music to your ears when it's
heartfelt and sincere. So reach out to someone you trust and let them know
what's holding you back. The shame is not in the asking for help, it's in the
denying you need help. You are never alone. So reach out and find out how much
company you have.