Monday, 30 April 2012

EFT Tapping and Emotional Healing

This past weekend, I was asked about EFT Tapping, so because it's not something I know a lot about I’ve done some research which led me to this following article.

Heather E A Todd, who wrote it, is a firm believer in Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Tapping and here’s what she has to say about it:

“Most people have emotional hurts from their past in one form or another. EFT Tapping can be very effective in bringing about emotional healing and the great news is healing can occur on multiple levels because of the mind-body connection. Not convinced of a mind-body connection?

“Rene Descartes saw the body as a "bag of bits" and nothing more than a machine. Medicine adopted his philosophy for decades looking at the body like a machine, made up of individual parts and therefore when one part breaks fix that part and everything else should be okay. We now know though that everything is interconnected which is why in alternative healing a holistic approach is adopted. For true healing to occur you must look at the body as a whole.

“For instance, you may have felt terrible guilt because of a traumatic car accident that caused the death of a passenger and you were the driver. EFT Tapping could be used to resolve the guilt and suddenly you find your psoriasis clears up and your migraines cease to exist and emotional healing takes place. No one could prove that they were connected yet this sort of scenario happens all too frequently.

“Or take the experience of a person who had terrible aches and pains throughout her body on a daily basis. She had no idea this could in any way be related to the death of her father two years earlier yet tap on the grief, sadness, regret, and frustration that were experienced due to her father's death and the aches and pains cease to exist. In this scenario the opposite could also have been possible; had we tapped on the physical aches and pains the issues surrounding her father's death could have just as easily disappeared. EFT Tapping can successfully be used to tap on physical as well as emotional issueswhether they have recently been experienced or are issues that happened decades ago.

“So if you're feeling broken or incomplete know that it is possible to feel whole again. When you feel whole and complete you feel like you're running on all cylinders, you stop feeling chained to the past, you choose to take care of yourself because you understand you're unique and special, you experience joy, happiness, and you radiate love to all those around you. A worthwhile goal don't you think? Emotional healing is your birthright and you deserve it”.
If you’d like to see how Tapping is done, have a look at this short video:

Sunday, 29 April 2012

Improving Your Problem Solving Skills

Unfortunately, facing and overcoming problems is a large part of everyday life. Whenever we are faced with problems, we can opt to do one of two things - ignore the problem with the hope that the issue will take care of itself or we can treat it as a challenge from which we can learn and grow.

Why don't I Possess Problem Solving Skills?

Most people have a negative "What if" attitude that inhibits them from developing expert problem solving skills. In many cases, a person is too hesitant to attempt problem solving due to feelings of inadequacy or incompetence. Negative self-image causes a person to think that his techniques will surely fail or will not be accepted by others.

Additionally, someone that lacks creativity, ingenuity and an inability to think out of the box will have difficulty in problem solving. Many times we take ourselves too seriously and forget the child within us all that can devise ingenious ways out of a particularly difficult issue.

Stress, performance pressure and fatigue are also contributors to a person's inability to get past problems successfully. Emotions like anger, bitterness, depression, guilt, anxiety and self-pity hinder effective problem solving. A person attempting any type of problem solving should be flexible, have his mind open to all possibilities and be in a generally positive mindset about his ability to solve the problem.

Basic Steps in Problem Solving

Problem solving is a dynamic, repetitive process. First, define the problem clearly and concisely. Every problem has positive and negative factors. Describing these enabling or disabling factors allows us to make educated decisions about the best methods to solve the problem at hand.
If the problem posed is huge, attempt to solve it in pieces. Smaller steps are not so intimidating and when you have successfully solved one step, it can be a huge motivator to solve the next step. For example, starting up a business from scratch is a huge challenge that is best attempted in parts.

Make a list of possible solutions and rank them according to their efficacy and chances of success. Brainstorm and encourage all ideas and options, no matter how wild they seem. If possible, gather help from others to assist in problem solving - two heads are still better than one! Remove any doubts, feelings of denial or anxiety that you might have - this is very important to the problem solving process.

If possible, test and analyze the results of a smaller test case prior to undertaking the larger problem. Performing preliminary testing can help improve efficiency and simplify the final process by helping you refine your problem solving method.

  Don't be afraid to change or refine your solution
 if you find that 
you are not getting the desired result. 
   Remember, if you do what you have always done,
 then you will get 
what you have always gotten.

Finally, pursue your goal single-mindedly until it is achieved. Don't be discouraged because you didn't achieve success immediately. Take your time, enjoy the process and reap the rewards of your patience and determination.

Using these concepts the process would look something like:
  1. Define the problem.
  2. Create a plan of action incorporating ALL ideas.
  3. Test and Analyze the effectiveness of the action plan using test cases.
  4. Refine your action plan and repeat steps 1-4 until the problems are solved and your goal is achieved.
  5. Starting to Give Up!!! -> Refer to Step 1
Simply put the progression is Define, Plan, Test, Analyze, Refine and Succeed. The process is repeated like a rotating wheel until intermediate problems are solved and the final goal is achieved.

How Can I Improve My Problem Solving Skills

Problem solving skills can only be improved through practice. Encourage yourself to take on more complex issues in both your personal and professional life. Focus on improving your critical thinking skills and the overall decision making process. The more comfortable you feel handling difficult issues, the more self-confidence you will have when the next monumental problem comes along.

Wednesday, 25 April 2012

The Power Of Affirmations

Affirmations can be a powerful set of statements to help you to achieve your goals for success. 

There is no limiting factor to the type of success that you can use them for. Success is what YOU believe it to be. You can use your affirmations to help you be successful in your career, your finances, your family life, or your love life.

Used correctly, affirmations for success can help you achieve the success goals that you have created and want to strive for. Here in this short video from The Secret is some clear guidance on how you can use affirmations to help you towards your own success.

You can learn more about the secrets behind The Secret at

Friday, 20 April 2012

Getting Motivated When You Don't Feel Like It

The secret to getting started on something when you don't feel like it, is surprising, but easy.

Edward W. Smith, motivational speaker, author and TV show host, who specializes in quick tips on how to move your life ahead even faster, offers the following advice. The secret to starting something when you don't feel like it, is using what he calls the "Act As If" technique.

With this technique, you act as if you feel like doing something, even though you don't. You go through the motions of doing what you are avoiding, and act happy and excited about doing it. 

You exaggerate your feelings on the positive side, while you are beginning to perform the task. Your body "fools" your mind into thinking you really want to do the task, and your mind changes itself into a positive view about the project. This works on basic mood changes as well. 

If you are in a bad mood and want to be in a good mood, you would stand up, march around the room with your head high, smiling, signing and acting happy. Within 3 minutes you really will be in a good mood.

So, try it out for yourself.  What do you have to lose?

Friday, 13 April 2012

More About Overcoming Fear

Brian Tracy is well-recognised as an expert in his field and here’s his brief video that could well help you to rid your life of fear:

Tuesday, 10 April 2012

The Importance of Overcoming Fear

One of the most important pre-requisites for personal development is overcoming fear. 

It is at the moment that we overcome fear, especially fear of failure and success, that the doors for personal growth get wide open.
Fear is a phenomenon that is responsible for holding back many of us from realizing our dreams. It is simply impossible to succeed in anything while fearing it, whether you are conscious of the fear or not. In fact - fear and success are mutually contradictory terms; they just don't go hand in hand.

One of the objectives of personal development is to learn how to overcome fear, any sort of fear. To do that, let us identify some of the kinds of fears that may hamper your progress:

· Fear of failure
· Fear of Success
· Fear of rejection
· Fear of public speaking
· Fear of change
· Fear of abandonment
· Fear of flying
· Fear of driving

And these are just a handful that if not overcome will arrest your personal development's progress. Overcoming fear is so important that it merits looking briefly into its nature.

Each and every one of us is born with only two kinds of fears: Fear of loud noises and fear of falling. All the rest were acquired at some point in our life and were caused by an event or a chain of events which we now associate with pain or danger. Very often we are not aware of the fear or the event that caused it, but whether we are conscious of the fear or not, we are still held hostage by it, avoiding any situation that might trigger the memory of the event.

Fear is irrational; the event that might have caused the fear in the first place has long gone, yet the fear still remains. But why? The reason is that although the cause of the fear is no longer physically present, yet it is alive - and often vividly so - in your memory. It is there deep in the crevices of your brain that lies this memory and it must be changed.

Excelling in life requires the willingness to embrace change. So, what must a person who fears change do?

The first thing is to simply identify what is it about change that your fear. Are you too comfortable living within your comfort zone so that the prospect of change scares you? Are you afraid to let go of the person that you are, risking it in order to become a better person? Are you worried about the vacuum that might be created during the transition? Are you Are Are you concerned you may not like the new you? These are all legitimate questions to ask. They are also a good place to begin, if you are to get rid of your fear.

What is it that holds you back? Is there any fear of something lurking within? If it is any comfort to you, then do know you are not alone. In fact millions upon millions of people do not advance in life because of their fears.

Before you can make any progress in your personal development journey you will have to confront your fears. Overcoming them, one by one, is instrumental to your success. You may need to seek professional help to do that, but overcoming your fear is a must for you.
Most people who have learned how to overcome one single fear found it easier to master the second and the third, realizing that the fear stems from an old memory and that the event that has originally caused it is no longer present.

Overcoming a fear is liberating and a huge victory that merits a celebration. Overcoming all your fears is setting yourself free from serving a lifetime in prison.

It was President Franklin D. Roosevelt, in his first inaugural address, who said that the "Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself", alluding to the fact that nothing can be accomplished, as a county or as individuals, if we are enslaved by our fears.

Whether your objective for your personal development is to enhance your self-knowledge, amass wealth, become a public speaker or a shining leader - overcoming fear is a pre-requisite.

(Based on an article by D. More)

Monday, 2 April 2012

More Ideas About Getting The Life You Want

Here's another article I’ve just come across – this one is by Sandra Hemphill and she shares her strategies for making money online working from home:

“Who would not want to earn money, right? Well, with the help of the online world, you can already do that. In fact, it is considered the best place where you can get fast money, considering the fact that almost all business transactions are now done online. If you have just taken the first big step to unlock the gold mine in the online world, you should be equipped with the right knowledge. Well, this article will reveal you all the ways on how you will be able to have online income.

“The best thing about making money online is that you can successfully make money from home. With this, you no longer have to suffer from the hassle of waking up early in the morning just to go to work and to commute. Can you just imagine the great convenience you will experience?

“So, what are the steps in making money at home?

“First, you need to know your goals. This means that you should have a target niche in the online market. Of course, your goals should be aligned with your expertise and familiarity with a certain product or service. For example, if you believe that you are a great salesman, you can earn money online through selling a certain product. When it comes to choosing a product, you must also be very careful with what you will sell because it can make or break you. Make sure that what you have in store for your target market will easily click.

“Second, you should also be aware of the possible problems that you may face in your chosen market. To anticipate everything, you should be able to identify a problem and look for a solution to it. In figuring out the needs of your chosen market, you should not just rely on your very own judgment because you might be thinking the wrong thing. What you need to do is to put a lot of effort and time into identifying what your chosen market is exactly looking for. Since you are a starter, the best thing you can do is to perform a keyword search in order for you to perfectly define the problems your niche might face.

“In the online world, the only permanent thing is competition. This is the reason why you need to assess the level of competition very well. If the online market seems to offer everything, what is unique or special about your product or service that will capture the attention of customers and clients? This means that you must establish yourself as a different business from the online competition. Therefore, it is very important that you possess the so-called x-factor.

“Marketing is also a very important aspect in business because this will make you popular among your target market. Apart from that, this will pave the way for you to achieve brand management, higher sales and a high level of return on investment (ROI) as well.

“These are the first steps you should do in order for you to make money online.”