Every day is a new beginning especially when things
don't work out the way you hoped they would. One of my best friends has been
out of work for nine months, like many other people in this country who have
lost their jobs. The other day she was very excited because she was offered a
job with an ad agency. But, she would be making a great deal less than she had
in her last job where she had worked for ten years. She wondered if she should try and negotiate a
little more money and decided to go for it.
They told her to forget it and withdrew their offer
to her. Needless to say she was
devastated and felt that she had blown it. Apparently, I presume that they took it as her
not appreciating the opportunity which I feel is narrow minded and they obviously
failed to see the bigger picture.
Having an employee that is a go-getter, not afraid
to negotiate a better deal and who feels that what they bring to the table has
value is who I would want on my team. Instead of withdrawing the offer, they
could've said this is the starting pay but there is room for advancement after
you're reviewed in 3 or 6 months. But to be so uncompromising seems
short-sighted. I'm not sure I would want to work for them!
Now, I'm telling you this story because many times
when you feel like you screwed up or when things don't work out the way you
want it's really a new beginning and it simply wasn't meant to be. The reality
is that something better will come along. But if you look at the door that was
closed and beat yourself up, where will that get you? Probably more depressed
and stuck in the past.
The other reality is that when you really think
about it would you want to work for a company that was so rigid and close minded?
If they handled that situation with such an offensive and hard lined attitude
what would the day in day out job be like? So even though it doesn't feel like
it, there is a silver lining in every situation.
It's the same thing with other events and relationships
in your life. When they don't work out or when you blame yourself for whatever
happened it's a waste of time. And ultimately, things always work out in the
end. And if you look a little deeper you will probably find that there were
things you ignored that weren't so perfect.
Each day is a new beginning to start over, to do it
differently, to pick up the pieces and move on to the next chapter in your life
and to put the past in its place, which is in the past. Don't carry guilt,
regret and blame with you into today or into your future. What good does it do
you? How does it benefit you? Does it make you a better person?
Our lives will have disappointments, failures and
adversities along the journey but they are coupled with triumphs, successes and
good fortune too. Each day is a new beginning to travel the road ahead of you
with the right attitude. Remember, it's not what happens to us in life that
matters the most, it’s how we CHOOSE to perceive what happens to us that
matters more!
Choose to look at each day as a new beginning to
look at all the good in your life. A new beginning to live with an attitude of
gratitude and to be thankful for your many gifts. Or, you can choose to mope
around, feel sorry for yourself and live in the past. Which road do you want to
travel? The choice is yours!
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